Perhaps the most salient paragraph for me from Justice Brownstone's book was the following passage on page 3:
What is the difference between the couples who settle their disputes privately and those couples who require a judge to make decisions? Do the parents in the first group dislike each other any less than those in the second group? Does the first group have access to resources unavailable to the second group? Do the two groups come from separate and distinct socio-economic or cultural groups? Not in my experience. In my opinion, the major difference between couples who resolve their disputes privately and those who turn to a judge has to do with one overriding characteristic: maturity. We who work in family court know that a person's maturity level has nothing to do with economic circumstances, education, culture, race, religion, or sexual orientation. We see rich people and poor people in our courtrooms, and we
see people from all walks of life and from every racial, cultural, ethnic, and religious background, and from every lifestyle and orientation imaginable. Trust me: judges see it all. What we don't see very often in our clientele is maturity.
Justice Brownstone's book is available through http://www.ecwpress.com/
